Hope everyone has been going well, it’s been insanely hot over here recently and can’t wait for winters return again. But honestly not that much to report on, as life has just been very much the same every day since returning to my cell.

Hoping to hear from you all soon, and hope your different lives have all been going well though too.

Jess

It is coming up rather quickly, and after having my little time over Christmas of freedom, I’m not exactly sure how I feel about it and what I’d like to do honestly.

I would love to go back to the city and do some of the things that I’ve missed so much during the year. Would love a night out to the movies and a good meal from a restaurant, and to perhaps look pretty again and wear a nice dress, rather than constantly being in my uniform scrubs. But at this time I’ve got no where to actually go back to, and the idea of going back to a normal job again is something I really dread.

Jess

Dear All,

I have been watching the forum but have not posted for a while. It seems like things are very quiet. Maybe people are also just watching or many have gone away.
I wanted to provide an update. I am still under my supervision program. There have been some changes, some of them based on suggestions made here. The structure has become more restrictive and more formal. The supervision agreement has been reviewed for legal correctness and is now mostly acceptable as an enforceable civil contract in the United States. Individual sections that might not be enforceable have had specific consent added to make them more robust. The program has had a lot of specifics about behavioral goals added  and includes tools and methods, some of which I am not especially fond of, to be sure I am making progress toward those goals and helping with avoiding distractions.
I want to thank any of the people who made suggestions in the past for helping me along my journey.

Respectfully,

Dear Azureko,

Thank you for your interest and your inquiry.
Provisions related to required wear of a chastity belt,  continuous video monitoring while at home, and the electronic location monitoring and curfew enforcement, restrictions on the people that I can associate with, and restrictions on internet  use were felt to be personally intrusive and possibly violating fundamental rights and public policy.  These sections each have specific consent statements.
There are new progressive sanctions for not following the specifics of the agreement.  Most of these start with a written journaling or reflection assignment as a first step. The writing has to meet a specified standard or has to be repeated. I understand how this is meant to be helpful but I do not like writing, especially about feelings or about mistakes I have made. I am afraid that this will be a very powerful tool for encouraging my compliance.
The reasons for curfew have been made more explicit as have the procedure and reasons for requesting exceptions. There are new limits on the number of exceptions allowed per week and per month. There are ways included to earn more but there are also ways to lose them. It will require that I be much more mindful of planning each month to be sure I do not run out of exceptions if I need them.
I think some of your comments in the past have influenced the development of the program. Thanks you.

Respectfully,

Dear Azureko,

Thank you for your interest.

There is a wide range of sanctions. I think there must have been a call for suggestions. Loss or restriction of electronic privileges, increased or more intrusive daily check in requirements, reading or writing assignments, removal of unsupervised leisure time, increase restrictions, progressive curfew adjustments (although there is little left to lose), and communications restrictions. Most of these have a progressive nature tied to the particular offense. There are ways to earn back lost things by consistent compliance and good behavior. I think the worst sanction would be loss of access to the internet for a long period like a week. To be cut off from the net, which is required for so many things and worse, to be cut off from the net community like this one would be very isolating. It has been demonstrated that I could be locked down to only specific site required for work very easily. The other worst would be at home "quiet time" for a long period, like a week. This is no phone, no computer, no books, no television or videos, just sitting or standing and sleeping during specified times. It has also been demonstrated for me that the technology to enforce this is readily available and easy to implement.

There is an exit clause. "may submit a written request to terminate this agreement with 60 days' notice. Termination will be at the discretion of the Supervisor." There are also provisions to request changes 60 days in advance and to request an independent review of Supervisor decisions. There is also a provision "All requests for termination, changes, or reviews may be interpreted as potential signs of non-compliance, resistance, or defiance, and will be evaluated accordingly by the Supervisor." So these things are allowed but discouraged, as they should be.

The amount of intermittent confinement has not changed. Two alternate sites have been located which will help with scheduling. There are also some alternatives to confinement that would be equally or more restrictive but would not require travel. Intermittent confinement is schedule for next weekend and I will try to report on that if you wish.

I think that some of your questions and comments in the part have helped to shape the revised agreement so I very much appreciate your input.

Respectfully,

Thank you for your interest and for your questions.

Most of my bills are on auto-pay whether I have access to the internet or not.  Total restriction from the internet would be a serious sanction. Normally, internet control is monitoring sites visited, time spent, and content. Lots of site are restricted. Additional site can be restricted, hopefully temporarily and can be earned back.
The restrictions are meant to add structure to my life. Some of them make it difficult but the intention is not to make it impossible so that the supervision can be maintained long term.

The entire revised agreement has been evaluated by several sources as a viable enforceable civil contract. Their assessment is that the agreement is enforceable as a civil contract should that be necessary. The agreement is modeled after a agreement that would used by a court to appoint a custodian for someone who was able to set structure and handle affairs for themselves. Some states allow a person to ask the court to appoint a custodian without a determination of incapacity. The legal opinion is that this agreement could serve as a petition for this type of custody. There are some aspects like the enforced use of a chastity belt, intensive and invasive video surveillance,  extensive limitations on travel, and the restrictive curfew that were identified as possible court enforcement issues. However, each of these has an accompanying consent provision to mitigate any concern. There is also a severability clause that says if any any provision would not be enforceable in court, the remainder of the agreement remains in effect and enforceable. I do not think it would be necessary to enforce this in court but fully feel that it would be.

Please feel free to ask any other questions. A provision of the agreement requires that I be transparent about this.

Respectfully,

Thank you for your interest and for the feedback.

A week long quiet time would be an extreme measure but certainly still possible. I have had shorter (one 24 hour, one 48 hour) timeouts. I later explained to people that they couldn't reach me because of cell phone problems. The new supervision agreement requires  "must also respond truthfully when asked by others about the existence of supervision, restrictions, or curfews, unless excused by the Supervisor for specific safety or privacy reasons." The cell phone excuse is no longer an option.

These things can (and some have) happen. I am required to be transparent about my life to the Supervisor. The Supervisor can (and has) made adjustments for unforeseen circumstances. I don't think any of those adjustment have ever lessened the level of control and restriction.

Thank you for the reminder to try to plan for the unlikely unexpected.

Respectfully,

Pretend you're explaining going dark to me.  I'll play, say, a work contact.

"Hey buddy, where have you been the past 48 hours??  Been trying to reach you, urgent stuff.  You ok?"

I really do appreciate your.candor.  Some may see this questioning as invasive.

I certainly do understand how procrastination can bite you.  The fact you're doing this at all is.admirable, I sincerely hope this enrriches your life in the long run.

May I ask how one finds a supervisor like this?  Is it through standard venues like Fetlife or personals?  Or was it via some kind of "scene" that you discovered it?

The requirement for honesty.  How specific is it?  Are you really required to give minute details, or is this your interpretation?

For example, could you choose to.say "self improvement" or however you'd phrase it, as something that could pass for life coaching?  Can you ommit details?

I think life coaching can work, if you have the wiggle room to spin it.  But if you're specifically required to tell details, that can indeed male it difficult to make excuses.

It sounds like you have a pretty accomodating social circle from what you've said.  From experience though, missing one too many engagements usually means less offers..

Again, thanks for your responses.  Required or not, you're the one that needs to give them.

I won't pretend I relate to.your lifestyle choices, but I get you're 100% committed to this.  Lots of people dream or wish or whine, you're actually doing something.

Best wishes to you.

Hello 705

It would be nice if you could report about your experience in your intermittent confinement.

Kinds regards

Azureko

Dear Azureko,

I am scheduled for intermittent confinement this coming weekend. I will try to make good notes so as to be able to give a good report.

Respectfully,

So, you can take up the offer and not answer, or choose to answer, but must answer as truthfully as possible?

That seems fair.  I'm hesitent to press for any further concessions, as I'm not sure where well meaning concern meets meddling.

The fact is you did agree to this, and your supervisor is in charge.  Who am I to try and weasal in loopholes?