It is a good question. I will try to offer some of my thoughts.
I do not think I have ever been a brat but I do look for loopholes, not to exploit them, but to help close them. I enjoy restrictions that are absolute or close to it because once I accept that, I can relax and feel secure in whatever the situation is. Absolute means giving up thinking about find a way out and focusing on the restriction.
24/7 is not for everyone. Some of us think if bondage is good for an hour, then two hours will be better and three hours will be better than that. But during that time, there is always the thought that if only I can wait this out, I will be free and I can do what ever I want. For me, that thought is distracting. For me, 24/7 is better. It may take some looking for loopholes to close them to make 24/7 absolute. I am basically grounded for life, but in plain sight. I go to work, I get groceries, I sometimes have dinner with friends but all of this is with my curfew in mind. I have boundaries and limits set for me and sanctions for transgressing them. Staying inside the "cage" IS the game. (for me) No chance of escape means the game is better. (for me). I like puzzles. Creating an inescapable structure is a puzzle. Once you have that, escaping is a puzzle. Wash, rinse, repeat until you can conclude that you can't solve the escape puzzle. Then you have solved the creation puzzle.

I share Miisa's thrill in being trapped. The structure I am in rewards embracing and discourages fighting it.

You are correct. Chastity is not normal restraint. It is a special restraint in that, done properly, it restrains a significant human desire. It is also significant in that, done correctly, it can be long term, invisible and can be 24/7. A secure belt is inescapable. It passes the puzzle test. The control is great for those who like or need that sort of thing. Sometimes, the limitations a belt imposes are awful but if they weren't noticeable, they wouldn't really be liimits.

These are just my thoughts and, I suppose, my philosophy. I am interested in hearing about others.

Respectfully,

Dear Azureko (and all),

It is 8:30 AM EDT, 1230 GMT.
My computer block yesterday from 5 to 7 so there was nothing to do but sit and think about being in the cell.
From the original planning notes for the custody program:

I spent the two hours focusing on these things and how I could be productive for the rest of the time.
I was fed a granola bar at 7:30 pm. There is drinking water freely available from the sink in the cell.
At about 8:30, I was given the chargers to begin charging the tracking bracelets to avoid charging violations while I am in here.
I worked on some profession projects until 10:00 pm when the computer again locked for the night.
The cell has a bunk with a futon mattress and a blanket. I fell asleep fairly quickly because I was tired from working overnight the night before. The cell lights remained on and are out of my control.
This morning, the computer was available at 7:00 am and I completed the daily items that are required by work and supervision. At 8:00 am, I was given another granola bar.
About 8:15, I fell into "sync" with confinement, accepting that I agreed to be here, understanding that this is good for my growth, but really wanting out.
18 hours complete. 30 hours to go.
More later.

Respectfully,

Dear Azureko (and all),

It is 8:15 am EDT, 12:15 GMT, day 3 of intermittent confinement.
I mostly worked yesterday, as much as I could. The were 4 one or two computer time-outs during the day. I was required to write a reflection on the meaning and value of confinement as an aid to self improvement. I had to do another one accounting for my program violations over the last 30 days. There were ten: 1 curfew violation, 3 related to tracking bracelet charging, 4
technicalities from one of the parental control apps not being active for 5 days because I did not use those devices, and 2 because I accidently tried to login to a device outside of allowed hours.
I got a granola bar for breakfast and lunch. I was given one in the evening but cautioned that it was one of two left until release. I saved it for this morning.
I had a video interview with my Supervisor who was encouraging about my writing and compliance with the supervision program. They said there will be some proposed adjustments at our next in-person meeting.
I slept well last night.
41 hours complete, 7 hours to go.
More later.

Respectfully,

Dear Transmorpher,

Happy Easter.

Thank you for your interest and curiosity.
The curfew requires that I remain at home during curfew hours unless I have been granted an exception. There is a list of acceptable reasons for an exception and rules about how far in advance I need to request one. The advance notice allows time for the monitor to consider the request and decide, accounting for the fact that they may not always be available.
If there were a time sensitive, emergency situation, I can always just leave to do whatever is necessary. This will be a curfew violation. What actions occur as a result will depend on my ability to explain what happened and why I did what I did.
The system is strict and restrictive but allows me to make provisions for dealing with life but I am held strictly accountable for what I do.

Respectfully,

Dear Transmorpher,

It is something that I have thought about and it has been refined over the past twenty years to get to where it is now.

I don't think of myself as a worry wart but I do think of myself as risk aware, not in the sense of what people call RACK but in the sense that life involves all sorts of risks, some more likely than others and some more severe than others. I actually teach several classes about risk analysis and mitigation, primary for cyber-security and aviation. I have a bunch of training in failure and accident investigation and in human factors as it pertains to risk and accidents.
After you talk about this enough and tell people about it enough and work all sorts of exercises, you come to view most everything though at least a little bit of a risk analysis lens.

I am not sure if fairness is necessarily the priority, but I think awareness is, for everyone involved. Everyone should be trying to consider the "what ifs" and how likely they are to occur and also what should be done when something happens that you haven't considered. This is one of the reasons that I enjoy our conversations and your questions. You help look for things that may have not been considered or not considered in enough detail. Thank you.

Thinking of all the details and what to do about them gives us amazing freedom. I am often told how much freedom I have because of the unequivocal structure and boundaries that have been set for me. I have come to understand just how true that is.

Respectfully,

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Since this is a confinement, your computer time is strictly work related?  If so, 30 minute brreaks every two hours sounds fair.

I've got to tell you, if I had a curfew of any sort, it's the computer problems that would stress me the most.  Network problems, hsrdware or software issues, tech support, it can eat up time, and I mean a LOT of it.

If it helps, try and think of it as a common problem for everyone.  For you, it's a curfew, for me it could be a prior obligation I made to assist.friends or family, or some other task I set for myself.  It's all about time management, we all have our monitors, from without and within, all of us suffer consequences for how we manage that time or fail.to.  And most of us never do as much as we'd like.

Btw, I hope my happy easter wasn't as bone headed as I'm imagining.  You were under curfew, right? 

And it's an assumption on my part that you even celebrate easter.  Not everyone does.   

Thinking about it, a curfew also gives you permission to disengage.

Sometimes.you keep driving yourself to burnout, and feel guilty over the productivity hit.  Those curfews set boundaries against that.

Which is kind of awesome tbh.

Is.your curfew consistent?  It's 7 p.m. here as of your curfew, east coast US.  I'm assuming you're not in the US, as 7 is rather early for a curfew to.be functional.

I get it. 

My friend, I've seen some messed.up shite.  I've seen an elderly woman get a heart attack at her blue collar.job, and they penalized her as if she was absent of.her own volition.  I'm also.a long time fan of professional wrestling, the stories of Vince McMahon coercing workers against seeing their sons born is infamous.

I have.a feeling your monitors are nowhere near that hard hearted. 

I won't ask you what the denial was for as that's your personal business.