Dear Sophie,

I am sorry to read that you were judged so harshly. I hope you will be allowed to return here soon. Nothing of your behaviour that we know about may have justifiably merited such a reaction and starting education from zero. You are a helpful, highly valued member of our community and I believe you were making significant progress with your personality. I fail to comprehend how cutting you away from like-minded people interested in your situation could possibly help in your further atonement. When one of your guardians writes to let us know about you, we will be glad to discuss how our community could support their ideas of your training.

Dear Ingrid,

First of all, if you wish to become a submissive, you need a lot of trust for your Mistress. You have to know that she will pay attention to your needs and you will fulfil your dreams together; otherwise there is no point. Also, you will need to learn to think twice before you say anything. In case something goes horribly wrong, you will have a safeword.

Your list of limits is just a helpful tool to tell all the things that might be extremely uncomfortable to you because of personal beliefs, phobias or previous experiences that your Mistress might not know about. Things commonly listed as limits include, for example: breathplay, scat, some forms of penetration, very small spaces (claustrophobia), telling your grandmother about your submission...

If you want to make your list longer, you can split it into two parts: hard limits ("it scares me out of my sanity, absolutely not") and soft limits ("I really don't like it, but maybe I could try with extra care if it pleases my Mistress").

Wishing you much luck with your hardships,
Doom Turtle

Dear Doom Turtle, I'm beginning to understand the why of limits.
It's so I understood it's a protection in case of ignorance of my mistress of phobias of fears, refusals... that I could have.
Like the needles, the permanent markings, I really don't see myself being branded, or tattooed with obscene things, although I'm sure Anja would never do that to me. I also don't want to be humiliated in public or paraded around like a freak.
Another thing that I will absolutely refuse is the presence of a third party in our relationship.
Scat is really disgusting and it stinks so much.
But doing a rose sheet (rimming) that I've been denying Anja for a long time is that scat, like being forced to shit in front of her?
I have another phobia, mice and rats, I'm terrified of them. There are still plenty more.
I now understand why such a long delay to detail my limits, because I am sure that despite this I will forget some. But I trust her to accept this oversight.
As for talking without thinking, I admit, that's one of my biggest flaws.
Since Anja asked me to write this list my morale has skyrocketed, I cross my fingers although she still tells me that she has not made any decision.
Thanks again
Ingrid

DoomTurtle

We're planning on being here for atleast two weeks more, as we both have the first few weeks of our semesters online, so that will be a slight change in our life here, as I will be allowed regular access online during the mornings on weekdays

Dear Ingrid,

The concept of a safeword is pretty simple: you choose a particular word and you can use it to sign that you cannot continue a submissive activity (for any reason: too much pain, humiliation, mental effort, any real or perceived danger, whatever). Then you sit with Anja to discuss what happened and how to avoid it in future, showing care and love for each other. You cannot be punished or even criticised for using a safeword, and you should use it only when you really need it.

I know that I'd like to look at my submissive regularly to be sure she is all right, especially if she is in bondage. It doesn't mean I would watch all the time when she uses toilet. Obviously, you decide about your limits, but I think you will learn quickly that there is no need to feel embarassed by your Mistress, someone who you owe full obedience.

Yours,
DoomTurtle

Ingrid

Hello!

When I am spending time in a power exchange dynamic with my partner, (which is not the case 24/7) He has my phone most times, and I am not allowed anywhere near it, or to use any other electronics apart from a TV and Chromecast when I am locked in my room, so I can pass the time, or if I don't feel tired after being locked in for the night.

I am also collared throughout that time, and kept in an anklechain when I am out of my room.

I also contribute in chores alongside him, we both make our food together as a couple, though he usually has more say in what we eat.

But I would say our exchange is pretty casual compared to some others.

And like I've said before, we only assume our roles as an inmate(me) and Dom(my partner), when we are out of town at his cottage, and when we are in town, we are a regular girlfriend and boyfriend couple.

Hugs,

Hanna

Ingrid

I have been here now for about two weeks, and we are planning on being here for about two weeks longer.

And it just feels natural for me, I like having rules to obey and always been interested in submission, almost feels natural for me! I love it!

Hugs,

Hanna

Dear MsHanna,

I think it is wonderful that you are able to spend your time together enjoying the dynamic after your school semester begins.To be able to attend classes remotely while on your chain sounds delightful. I am glad the two of you have this opportunity. You, but mostly your Dom, may wish to consider some of the parental control apps for your phone that would let him deny you access without having to physically take it away from you. Some of them allow scheduling time each day you can use the phone and how. Some of them allow him to see the websites you visit and the calls and texts you make. This would help be sure you are only using the phone access for school. These apps would make his control over your phone easy even after you have to return to the less interesting world in town. I hope you enjoy the rest of the summer.

Respectfully,
705

Dear Hanna,

The idea of being able to communicate (text, email, or even phone) in a language that a dominant partner does not understand is an interesting one. People who were raised with only one language tend to not be aware of this possibility and is fun to think about. You are lucky to have that skill.

Your phrase "strip me of my rights to a phone access and confiscate it at will" has a wonderful sound to it. I am glad that you like it. It makes a nice picture of him just taking your phone and saying "that's enough for now" or just telling you to hand it over.

I am glad you folks are doing well.

Respectfully,
705

Hello,
I'm happy, I think my desire is on the right track. This weekend, Anja made me pass some "tests" which I think I passed
But that made me feel hopeful again after being put off by a conversation the week before I begged her to take me on as a sub and she told me no, she wasn't ready.
It's a little phrase while we ate pancakes"
Enjoy, maybe you won't eat it anymore"
I know all the same that I will have to wait still, because she told me that I would have new tests next week.
This is the ordeal of the Scottish shower.
Dear MsHanna,
it's not fun not having a phone, I'm also a bit addicted to it but it seems that disconnecting from time to time is a good thing
ingrid

Dear Turtle Doom,
thank you for your reply. I have blind faith in Anja, she has never betrayed me since we got together.
It's one of the 2 reasons that made me decide to want her as a mistress, the other being that I love her.
For impatience, I know it's one of my big faults, Anja knows it too. I think, I hope she will take drastic measures to correct this defect.
kiss.
Ingrid

Hi 705

Another suggestion might also be for your to wear restraints at home when you are on curfew on Sunday since you mentioned that you have to be at home all day. Given that you have also do you intermittent confinement 180 hours a year perhaps these hours can also be scheduled on Sunday for you to be restrained at home if you also send verification photos to your supervisor about it.

Greetings

Azureko.

Dear 705,
it seems that a lot of people here want you "good" to make your daily life tougher.
However, I have the impression that you have made substantial progress in your behavior.
I hope that your supervisors will take this into account and will not be too harsh with you despite the mistakes that Sophie forced you to confess.
Ingrid

Dear Ingrid,

Thank you for saying I have made progress. I try to follow my rules exactly as they are written but also in the spirit they are meant. It is always possible to do better and I am grateful for all of the help and suggestions that I have received here. All of you and your ideas are helpful in making my program better. This is especially so now that my supervisor is checking what I right here and can see the discussion and reason behind the suggestions and advice that people give.

Dear Hanna,

Iis good to hear that you are doing well and getting some more good time in the countryside.  I hope your part of Florida is not being affected by the hurricane weather. Please stay safe.

Respectful hugs,
705

Dear 705,
Isn't it difficult to be all time under constant surveillance, no longer having any privacy?
For your weekends at home, haven't you thought about returning to your monotonous diet? you said it was good for your health.
I would also like to know more about your 180 hours of confinement.
Dear MsHanna,
I'm glad you weren't affected by the hurricane.
When I see the damage they cause, it’s scary.
kiss.
Ingrid