That makes sense, with a group you're under the same risks everyone else who lives nornal lives is in group settings.  You're likely safer then normal, as your caretakers must have plans in place for emergencies, training, resources and support custom tailored to your lifestyle.

I am not yet able to have the level of strictness that you do but find it desirable for the sames reasons you do. We are working to provide something as strict and structured as possible while still allowing me to interact with the world as much as I need to. I am envious of your situation and what you and the Committee have built. Thank you for all of the information you have shared over the years.

I'd assume wearing a ballgag or other style is hidden behind a face mask.

It's the logistics.I'm wondering about.  Like for starters, whether the sub you mentioned wears the gag out for hours at a time.  How does she handle hydration or other issues. 

Again this is assuming whether the no speaking rule is evern "hard", as in no exceptions ever.  Kind of like your life actually.

I guess you yourself are proof absolute silence CAN work in theory.  But I simply can't see "no exceptions" being possible in all cases for most people. I mean, Jury Duty is a thing.  Even you'd need to bend to a judges order, assuming Finland has a similar systsm of civil.service.

I supppse logically though, most "sub can not speak from home" arrangements aren't quite that commited to disallow flexibility.  Most people want to he able to attend family events, and actually engage in conversation without resorting to alternative methods of communication.  Or have time out with friends, ect..  And there's likely legal compulsions for oral communication barring a medically verified handicap.

Barring possible legal exceptions, one case I can see it being easy is if you cut ties/are on bad terms with family, have no or few friends, and are a total homebody.  THAT I can see swinging an iron clad speech restriction policy away from home, since you're usually home anyways.

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Get an X channel?  Visit Reddits bdsm subs?

If traffic is a goal, you need people to know this forum even exists.  I stumbled onto it by chance, in spite of being well aware of Captivegirl, who's seen as more of a myth then a real lifestyle by virtue of no one having met her (She's in Finland, so that alone could limit access, never mind visitor limits of two a month reserved for her brother and friend.  Unless the committee adjusted it...

Why so strict on visits anyways?  I mean lots of aspects of your captivity deviate from a normal prison.  What prison allows sleeping in ballgags?)

Now don't take.this as something that will EVER happen, but if I had the means and opportunity to visit Finland;

1.  Is a visit from a stranger you only met online something you'd even consider?  Would.your committee?
2.  If the answer to this is "yes", can you ask if they ever consider an exception for your visitation limit?  Frame it as the prospective forum member who is interested in meeting Miisa as feeling obligated against depriving.her.of her brothers and friends visitation opportunity.  You were very clear in your writings how.important these visits are to you, and I could not make such a visit if I were to cause distress.

I of course respect any decision.you or your committee make, but I consider this a hard limit.  Persomal ties are something very dear to me, and I could never knowingly be the cause of you're missing even a single visit from family or friends.

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I can imagine your visitor's reaction!  It's one thing to read about it online, and another to see it confirmed with your own eyes.

Even for those into extreme bdsm.dynamics like "Total Power Exchanges" where one person consents to be stripped of all power and decision making, your lifestyle is difficult to accept.  And to be frank, abuse is a major topic of consideration in these extremes.  The logic is that people are evolving creatures, and comsenting to be a "slave" today can become a desire to end the relationship tomorrow.  Your consent becomes your cage, if you are barred from leaving.

Some would even comsider a 3 month window of captivity too intrusive, if you decided you wanted immediate release.  I personally don't believe you would ever want such a thing, even if you did someday decide to use your exit clause, but if it ever came to it I believe your committee would sceap.the whole deal against the rules, if only because it would be illegal to do anything else but that.

Unless there is some sort of special arrangement I'm not aware of.  A legaly enforcable custody framework requiring a 3 month mental.health evaulation or some such.  But I'm no lawyer, simply musing here.

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