It gets complocated with CNC (Consensual non-consent).

It's easy to say everything a kink oriented adult does, is by their consent.  If you're humiliated, flogged, gagged and bound, ordered around like a slave, wear adult diapers and locking high heels on someone elses commands, and what have you, this is all something you negotiated and agreed to at the start of a relationship. 

The main common denominator is supposed to be care.  I don't know what you're into or where your boundaries are, but your significant other, dom/domme, coordinator, overseer, daddy/mommy, committee member, husband, whatever you want to call them, should understand enough about you to not cause trauma.

Nothing I'm saying is controversial or new.  The real murky waters come when someone says "I want extreme levels of control/to be controlled", and it looks exactly like an abusive relationship from the outside looking in.

Some people might LIKE being taken close to a line of trauma.  Being forced to have sex, no matter how much you fight or scream or resist, may be your kink.  How can one tell if the sub is being raped for real, or if it's part of their game?

Ask them? When?  With their dom standing right over them? 

So ask to see them alone, right?

Ok, what if someone like, say, Tempest, asked to talk with Miisa alone?  No committee, no guards (Bindings are optional, the point is you want assurances she isn't being intimidated or coerced).

I'm gonna go out on a limb and guess that ain't happening.  The guards stay, a committee member is always present

Just to be crystal clear, I am in no way accusing Miisa of lying about her situation.  She seems pretty well adjusted and happy, based on her writings and basic interactions on the board.  Sure, it could all be an elaborate ruse by a conmittee of evil traffickers, but there's no real reason to suspect this.  Who is the ruse for, random internet people?  Why even let her post at all?

But what if there was a committee just like Miisa's, except they ARE TRAFFICKERS.  How on earth can anyone do a "welfare check" on someone who lives the way Miisa does?  It's impossible.

Extreme kink is like that.  A dom orders a sub against talking without permission.  This could be a fun kink, but it can also be a tool for an abuser to isolate a woman and ensure she can't leave.

I don't know, this kind of thing eats at me.

What do you think?  And by you, I mean anyone here on the board, Miisa, followers, the Committee, guards, anyone.

Last edited by Transmorpher (2025-05-21 16:48:44)